If you have a baby then you’d reasonably expect your baby to love you more than anyone else, and you may worry if it doesn’t happen, you may be worried that your baby will prefer Grandma over you.
This article is a deep dive into whether your baby will prefer granma over you
Will my baby prefer Grandma over me?
Babies will learn to love all of their family members, but it is generally assumed that they will be most attached to their parents, but this may not always be the case.
Sometimes it may seem that your baby prefers their granma over you. Here is what you need to know about this:
The grandmother is more fun:
In some cases, unfortunately, your child may, for some time prefer, their grandmother over you because grandma is always around and is fun.
Children generally gravitate towards their primary caregiver whom they spend the most time with and have the most fun with, and this may be grandma.
The grandma may sing to the baby, bounce them in their arms, play with them or comfort them when they are crying, so the baby will prefer them over time eventually.
You as a parent may play a more functional role towards the baby, like feeding, bathing, and putting to bed, and the baby may prefer their fun grandma.
What to do:
You don’t have to feel upset if your baby prefers their grandmother because they see you as more of a functional member of their life, this is just how your child views you right now.
Spend more time doing fun things with your child and spread out the functional roles to other family members, if you can, your child should warm up more to you if you do this.
You spend a lot of time with your baby:
Another reason why your baby may seem to prefer their grandmother may be because you spend too much time with the baby.
If you’re spending too much time with the baby then the baby may want to spend time with someone new.
The fact that your baby spends so much time with you can result in her pushing you away because she is secure that you love her, this enables her to freely explore others like grandma.
What to do:
This is normal behavior, even though you may feel hurt that your child is doing this you should know that your baby does love you, they are simply very loving of everyone else as well
Your baby being securely attached to you, and not being worried that your love for her will disappear, is a good thing. She will come back to you once she is satisfied with the attention she has gotten from grandma and she’ll be excited when she gets back to you.
Added tips:
While this may hurt your feelings a bit, and while your child being bonded to someone else may make you upset, you can still enjoy the fact your child loves someone who is so close to them and someone who loves them back
Your mom is just being exactly what a grandma should be, that is loving, fun, and cuddly
Try to be positive about the situation, this love for grandma isn’t personal and it isn’t done to hurt you.
If your baby is very attached to their grandmother, they may cry and get upset when their grandmother leaves, and may only stop crying when they realize that their grandmother is not coming back, but they will look at you for comfort.
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